The Intelligent Alternative
I agree Ormond. For me at 1st after the passing of my son, it was the thought of never seeing him as I knew him again. From my experience, I think regret & guilt play a huge role in grief.What we grieve is the finality of never seeing that person or animal in the familiar form we knew. Thoughts come, 'did I do enough?' etc.
Sometimes people are so caught up in the "if only", "did I do enough?", "why him/her?", they do not see/feel what is happening around them. Not everyone will have experiences such as the one Fintan had. Many might, but if they are not aware of the possibilities, then the event will go un-noticed.It seems a rare experience to come in contact with someone passed, later on. Possibly it happens more than we know.
I think most people think of many in their lives as 'already having known them' when they meet. The point isn't trying to figure out when or where, which life, etc.
It's a bit like in their "present lives" people want things to remain the same, no changes. People stay in unhappy relationships - because it's easier to stay the same.As you say, if it happened the way many think they'd want it: to remain eternally in the same form, at the same stage, immortality would possibly feel like 'no exit', very tedious, limiting in possibilities. The Universe is obviously not so unimaginative as to leave it at that.
People, despite knowing deep down that something is not right in what they are seeing/being told, refuse to question because it is easier - the hardest thing is to accept change, create change, change, but nature/Mother Earth changes all the time, 4 seasons a year with all kinds of patterns in each season and "she" goes through each gracefully, we should learn from what is all around us.The genius of creation is space/time. Someone said that the only constant in reality is change. Grief comes from changes which our present moment moves us along from things we love. But without change, there would be nothing new.
Exactly, but it takes time to adjust, so people grieve. I regard my experiences in life, including my encounter with my son, as priviliges. I am who I am because of my experiences. People have been conditioned to grieve in certain way's, people find they get attention which might otherwise be lacking, when they wear their grief on their sleevesSo if it's a 'what goes around comes around' universe, nothing's really lost.
My son, in my mind, in the days and weeks after his "passing from this lifetime", was, hear this,Just 'someplace else' on it's own trip for a while. When it comes around to crossing paths again, what wonder to share meeting on a higher turn of the spiral of existence.
Flying through space and time, looking down on events - lke Astral Travel - perhaps. Beam me up Scottie 
kinda stuff, no was not on acid at the time. 
Depending on the relationship the person had with the person/animal who has passed over - again from experience - it depends on what "enough" is to individuals. Some people can fool themselves into believing they did enough. The fact is "sometimes it's only when someone is gone that those left behind realise what they had", the joy and learning experience they'd been given, but they did not appreciate these, which is sad. Sometimes rather than learning from the experience these people go on to manipulate others around them by using the "poor me" without a thought for how others are feeling.Still, it's a fact of life that we all react to death with a period of grief over the loss of the form we knew, that we shall never have again.
'Did I do enough?' The answer to that question is easy enough for anyone to determine the answer will be 'yes'. Every time you part, treat it as if it is the last time. And live every day as if it is the last.
For me too! I'ts in the air right now. (Ask Drew.Ormond: ....so there's synchronicity in this broadcast coming tonight.
)There is no question in my mind. My understanding on this is very clear,matt: .....oh my, i so want this to be true as you have told it
Fintan, truely i do...that we need not worry that this life is our only life...
....and i want to believe....
Yeah, I take the point. But look at me. Has an understanding that this lifematt: .....i have issues with living a vicarious feckless life as it is,
and need to try to recombobulate my various parts into something
resembling a useful life, just in case the death of this life is the final
experience i have....
The fact that around we have so many people careering around the ratmatt: ...i appreciate that Treeincarnation and how/why we return
does not rely on my being a believer, and i want to believe, but i have
issues with living a vicarious feckless life as it is , and need to try to
recombobulate my various parts into something resembling a useful life,
just in case the death of this life is the final experience i have
Yep. And much of what poses as grief is really unspoken regret.Ormond: ...Grief comes from changes which our present moment
moves us along from things we love. But without change, there would be
nothing new.
Same here. Hey, the kind of reaction you had makes it so worthwhile.Wheelie Dan: This particular show left me brimming with optimism, and positivity.
That's a great way of putting it.Kathy: ...I see, meet, get to know, people whom I sense I have
known before. I remember the energy, but cannot remember names or
where/when.
I think i'm actually of the same view as you on that. I'm only drawingurbanspaceman ...I have a strong disagreement, though, with
what you say is on either side of the mirror plane that goes down the
body (concept and actuality), as I think concept and actuality are 2
different perspectives on the same phenomena...
Good point. Well, this is getting ahead of latest developments which haveurbanspaceman ...you often refer to THE I/O sphere, instead of A
I/O sphere, which makes me wonder if you are saying there is only one
sphere appearing to be many...I'm confused...
